The experience of the ‘Inner Critic’ is something we’re all familiar with. We might refer to it by a number of different names, but the experience itself is the same; a frequent and persistent judging about what we do and who we are in our lives. This voice seems to come from within and usually, it feels like it’s in our heads, rarely missing a chance to snipe or remind us ‘what we’re doing is wrong’.
The two main ways we often relate to this voice are to either identify with it or to rebel against it. When we identify with it, we internalise the judgements as ‘true’ reflections of our character, or shortcomings. We begin to think that we are failures or jerks or unworthy in some way. We begin to think that we are the problem.